Going Back to Go Forward Exercises!

Hey, Everyone!

This Sunday, Andy taught about how the past shapes us and how Jesus can change how our past impacts us (sermon link).  We want to share two exercises below adapted from the Emotionally Healthy Church workbook to help you identify the "commandments" your family of origin lived by and discover the new way of life Jesus offers us in the gospel. We're praying that God would use this to help us live out the freedom we have as members of His family!

Exercise 1: "Ten Commandments" of Our Family of Origin
Growing up, each one of our families operated under a set of "commandments." Some of them were spoken and spelled out; others were unspoken and "understood." Take some time to jot down any rules, attitudes, and underlying assumptions your family had in the areas listed below - spoken or unspoken.  Share one with a friend or spouse, and tell how it continues to influence you today. 


  • Money: "It's okay to spend it on others, but not on yourself."
  • Success: "It's getting into the best schools."
  • Expressing Anger: "When you are angry, it is a sin."
  • Loss and Grief: "You are not allowed to be sad or depressed."

Ten Commandments of My Family of Origin 

  1. Money:___________________________________________________
  2. Success: _________________________________________________
  3. God: ____________________________________________________
  4. Gender Roles: ____________________________________________
  5. Marriage: ________________________________________________
  6. Complementing/Praising: __________________________________
  7. Sex: ____________________________________________________
  8. Play and Recreation: _______________________________________
  9. Expressing Anger: _________________________________________
  10. Loss and Grief: ____________________________________________

Exercise 2: The New Commands of our New Family
Our family of origin is the single most powerful and formative influence that has shaped the person we are today. Therefore it makes sense that Christian discipleship is ultimately about transplanting someone from their family of origin and rooting them into the new family of Christ.  Just as there are established ways of handling anger, money, conflict, sex, feelings, and the like, in our family of origin, so there are new ways of thinking and acting about these things in the family of God.  Discipleship is a process of unlearning and relearning, because through Christ, we've been birthed into a new family tree. 

Take a few minutes to write out the gospel version of your family's commandments. In other words, if the gospel is true, how does it free you to live out your new identity as a member of God's family in these areas?


  • Money: "My security is found in God's love and care for me, so I don't have to live for money. Instead, I can enjoy it and use it to bless others."  

Gospel Version of my Family's "Ten Commandments" 

  1. Money:___________________________________________________
  2. Success: _________________________________________________
  3. God: ____________________________________________________
  4. Gender Roles: _____________________________________________
  5. Marriage: _________________________________________________
  6. Complementing/Praising: __________________________________
  7. Sex: _____________________________________________________
  8. Play and Recreation: _______________________________________
  9. Expressing Anger: _________________________________________
  10. Loss and Grief: ____________________________________________

We hope you enjoy the Thanksgiving holiday and we'll see you this Sunday as Andy explores what it looks like to understand your limits in order to love well.  

In His grace, 

The Restored Uptown Staff & Elders

Tools to Help You Look Beneath the Surface

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Hey, Everyone!

We recently started a series on emotional and spiritual maturity called, "Life Abundant." This past Sunday, Andy preached a message about looking beneath the surface (sermon link) and we want to share three exercises adapted from the Emotionally Healthy Church book to help us process and apply what we're learning. Ready? Let's dive in!

Exercise 1: Finding the Patterns
Patterns in our lives and relationships are often a sign that we're acting out from deep places in our "iceberg," or parts of our lives that are often unseen and unknown to us. They usually reveal a "bug" in our emotional programming, something that plays out over and over again in our lives.  If you or a close loved one notice a "pattern of unhealth" emerging in your life, that is usually a good sign that something's amiss in your internal wiring. 

To help find your patterns, fill in the blanks below: 

  1. "Most of the time, I feel as if I am ____." (e.g. invisible, unimportant, failing, guilty)
  2. "What often happens to me in relationships is ________." (e.g. people leave me, take advantage of me, betray me)
  3. "Why do others at work or school or church keep on _____me?" (e.g. ignoring, expecting unrealistic things of, criticizing)
  4. "When I am under stress, I often find myself _______." (e.g. fighting, angry, medicating myself, blaming others, losing myself in an unhealthy way)
  5. "When I think about the future, I feel _____." (e.g. depressed, anxious, lost, unsure)

Exercise 2: Asking the "Why" Questions
It takes the grace of God to get at the bottom of our iceberg.  Thankfully, there are "disciplines of reflection" to help us walk in that grace. One of these is the "Why?" or "What's going on?" question.  As we notice patterns in our feelings, situations, and relationships that emerge in our lives, God desires that we ask ourselves the "Why?" question in the safety of His presence. 

Some questions to help you figure out, "What's Going On?"
Think about a recent situation in which you have felt some anger, frustration, fear, shame, bitterness, hate, grief, or jealousy.  Use the questions below as a starting point to get at "What's going on?" 

  • Rage/anger: "How was I hurt?" 
  • Frustration: "What did I feel helpless about?"
  • Shame: "What was I hiding?"
  • Resentment: "What did I expect or hope for?"
  • Depression: "What did I lose?"
  • Jealousy: "Where did I feel inadequate?"

Exercise 3: Seeing Your Blind Spot
Think of a person in your life who loves Jesus, knows you well, and loves you. Invite them to speak into your life by sharing what they see in you.  Ask them to share strengths you have that you're not aware of and also share honestly about some weakness or sin issues that you might not see. 

We're praying that the Spirit would give us greater self-awareness that leads to a deeper love of God and others through the transforming power of the gospel! 

In His grace,

The Restored Uptown Staff & Elders

p.s. if you have not taken the emotional maturity assessment yet, you can do so here!

Help us Serve Refugee Families in City Heights this Christmas!

Hey, Restored church!

We want to let you know that we are going to partner with Bridge of Hope in City Heights for their annual Christmas Bazaar this holiday season! 

Bridge of Hope is an incredible, local non-profit, that serves 700+ families in transition, right next door to us! They work to meet the needs of many underserved refugee families from over 60 countries, which means we have an opportunity to tangibly bring the love of Jesus to the nations this Christmas season, without leaving San Diego! 

With that said, we want to invite you to get involved! Here's how you can do that: 

1. We need donations!  If you want to help you can buy and bring an unwrapped gift for the Christmas Bazaar on Sunday, 11/12, or Sunday, 11/19 during the gathering.  Check out the donations list at the end of this post for specific donations...

2. We need volunteers to set-up, tear-down, and wrap gifts! The Bazaar will be on December 11th, 12th, and 14th at different times during the day and evening. If you’d like to help serve, you can click HERE to pick a time and sign-up! 

Lastly - here's the list of NEW gifts you can buy and bring on Sunday 11/12 + Sunday 11/19. Thank you so much church family!

  • toys for all ages and genders
  • baby items
  • movies
  • books
  • educational toys and games
  • toiletries for teenage boys and  girls
  • watches
  • socks
  • pajamas, slippers and gloves
  • throws (blankets)
  • soccer balls (this is a popular item)
  • make-up
  • art supplies
  • backpacks
  • clothing for boys, girls and teens
  • roller skates, scooters and bikes
  • skateboards and helmets
  • gift wrap, tape and scissors

Pre-Order Your 2018 CBR Journal Today!


Hey, family!

We want to let you know that you can pre-order your 2018 CBR Journal today!  The CBR Journal is a tool that helps us read the Bible and encourage one another as we experience Jesus in the pages of Scripture!

Here's how you can reserve your copy (it takes less than 2 min!): 

  1. Step 1: Click HERE
  2. Step 2: Under "Give," select "CBR Journal" fund
  3. Step 3: Enter $10 to pre-order your journal (if you want extra copies, add $10 for each)
  4. Step 4: Leave occurance set as "One-Time" + enter email
  5. Step 5: Follow directions for payment

Get your pre-order in ASAP to guarantee delivery by new years!  

You're Invited to Restored's Five Year Anniversary Party!


It’s hard to believe but this October marks the fifth anniversary since we planted Restored Uptown! In those five years we’ve seen God touch hundreds of lives through the gospel and open doors for us to plant multiple churches to continue this great gospel adventure. 

It’s been an incredible ride and we’re excited to invite you to celebrate with us on Sunday, October 8th.  We’ve got a great night planned with dinner, drinks, and stories from 6:00p-8:00p and a legit DJ and dancing from 8:00p-10:00p

Because of the significant cost of putting on this event we will have a cover charge of $20/person. However, we don't want anyone to miss this because of the cost, so if you can't pay for it, we want you to come anyway! Just email nicole@restoredsd.com and we'll cover the costs for you. 

Also, we won't have childcare for the party, but kids are welcome.  This is like bringing your children to a wedding so please use your discretion and we strongly encourage you to get childcare if your children are under 4 years old. 

Please RSVP HERE to register and pay!

Here are the full event details:

Date: Sunday, October 8th
Time: 6:00p-10:00p
Location: Moniker Warehouse (705 16th St. 92101)
Registration: $20, don't forget to RSVP
Childcare: No childcare provided, but kids welcome

We love you guys, can't wait to celebrate with you all!

In His grace, 

The Restored Uptown Staff + Elders 

RSVP to our Training on Reading the Bible in Community!


Hey, Restored family!

We'd like to invite you to check out our next Community Bible Reading ("CBR") training coming up on Tuesday, September 19th at the Resolved Church. During this training, we will learn how to read the Bible in a way that’s gospel-centered and be equipped on how to build each other up through CBR! We'd love to

Please RSVP HERE by Thu, 9/14 so we can have an accurate headcount.  

Here are the details: 

  • Date: Tuesday, September 19th from 6:30p-8:30p
  • Address: Resolved Church, 5444 Napa St, San Diego, CA 92110 
  • What to bring: Bible, CBR Journal, pen
  • We'll have coffee, water, and light refreshments

Environment Team Relaunching in September + Training


Our Environment Team is relaunching in September and is looking for new volunteers! If you're new, our Environment Team prepares our gathering space every Sunday to make it a warm, welcoming place for us to worship Jesus. 

Volunteers would commit to serving 1x month to help us setup and tear down our gathering space. We also want to invite all new and returning volunteers to an Environment Team training on Sunday, September 10th after gathering at the Sunset Temple where we can lay out why and how we serve!

If you're interested, sign up in the back on Sunday or send an email to team lead Aaron at Aaron.aiken.89@gmail.com.

Intro to Gospel Community Group Launches Sep 5th!


If you're new to Restored we'd like to invite you to check out our Intro to Gospel Community Group! We're calling this a six-week "taste of Restored" where you'll be introduced to who we are as a church and what we're all about alongside other new people! The group will meet on Tuesday nights starting September 5th and run through mid-October. If you are interested, please email nicole@restoredsd.com!

How to Finalize Your Giving Pledge!

Follow These Two Simple Steps to Set Up Recurring Giving Online!

Hey, family!

This morning we wrapped up our 5-week Giving series by making pledges for our ongoing monthly giving. We are grateful for what God has been doing in all of our hearts around this important topic. 

We wanted to follow-up with an email about how to follow-through with your pledge. Please follow the next steps below.


  1. GO TO restoreduptown.com/give, click "Make a Donation," & select "General Fund"
  2. SET-UP a new monthly recurring donation for the amount you pledged
  3. If this is your first time setting up a RECURRING donation, you are all set! Thank you!
  4. If you previously had a recurring donation, it was through our old system, so we will cancel your old donation and email you confirming this within 48 hours, to ensure you are not charged twice. If you do not receive this email within 48 hours, please send an email to nicole@restoredsd.com

We would greatly appreciate if you follow-up on this within one week!  Thank you for your ongoing generosity and partnership in the Gospel! 

Join us for Give Love Sunday, May 21st!

Help Us Raise $100,000 to Plant Restored Temecula!

Hey, Everyone!

This Sunday, May 21st, we are celebrating Give Love 2017 at Restored South Bay! The gathering will be at 10:00a, not 9:00a, so enjoy an extra hour of sleep! We are also commissioning Tom and Ebony Logue on Sunday as they move to start Restored Temecula, so you won't want to miss it! 

This year, we are seeking to raise $100,000 for Restored Temecula across our three churches!  We raised $42,000 for Brad and Sarah Sarian two years ago to help them start Restored Los Angeles, and would love to top that!

Here are three things to remember:

First, this Sunday we WILL NOT gather in North Park but we WILL GATHER together with Restored South Bay at Rosebank Elementary @ 10:00a, not 9:00a! The address is 80 Flower St, Chula Vista, CA 91910. 

Second, we want to challenge you to start praying about how much you'll give above and beyond your normal offering on Sunday, as 100% of the funds raised will go to help Tom and Ebony start Restored Temecula!

Third, you don't have to wait until Sunday, you can GIVE NOW! (be sure to select 'Give Love Restored Temecula' fund)

Lastly, thank you so much for your partnership with us in the gospel! Together we're planting churches, making disciples, and seeing people transformed as they discover who Jesus is and what He's done for them! We couldn't do this without your generosity, love, and support. 

In His Grace, 

Andy, Royce, & Jarek